Stand-Up Comedy, Rape Jokes, and the Word “Faggot”
The New York Times quotes Sarah Silverman: “I need more rape jokes,” she shouted nasally before letting her fans in on what she called a comedy secret, that such jokes are actually not so “edgy” after...
View ArticleKickstarter Shows What A Real Apology Looks Like
“We were wrong.” None of this “we’re sorry if anyone had their feelings hurt” nonsense. And the $25,000 to RAINN (a charity I admire and have given to) goes a long way, too.
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Two excellent but long comic strips about sexual harassment and assault
I thought this cartoon by sci-fi novelist Jim Hines was terrific, despite his lack of technical skill: Then click over and read Street Harassment In An Ideal World, which is very possibly the most...
View ArticleAnti-Rape PSA Shows Ways Bystanders Can Prevent Rape (and also, “what if...
I really liked this anti-rape PSA from New Zealand. It shows the lead-up to a rape, but then rewinds time and shows several different outcomes in which bystanders of one kind or another (a friend, a...
View Article“For My Son, A Kind of Prayer” is in Voice Male Magazine
This publication makes me very happy. If you don’t know about Voice Male, you should. My poem is on page 28 of the current issue:
View Article“Of Course There Are Times When a Man Has to Discipline His Wife!”
One of the reasons I haven’t been blogging lately is that I’ve been hard at work on an essay that I thought was going to be a very simple one to write. Instead, it has turned out to be one of the most...
View ArticleHow To Misreport A Rape Prevalence Study, National Review Style
Katherine Connell in the National Review writes: In its definition of rape, the CDC’s “National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence” survey includes sex that occurred when the victim was drunk or...
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Geroge Will’s Preposterous Rape Math
One way unserious people tire you out is by taking 15 minutes to write something unserious. It takes you four hours to undo their ignorance. –Ta-Nehisi Coates In an amazingly bad column about campus...
View ArticleA twitter conversation with Cathy Young about rape, sex, and consent.
Below the fold. [View the story "A conversation about consent and defining rape" on Storify]
View ArticleWhy I doubt that “63 percent of young men between the ages of 11 and 20 who...
I’m posting this here on “Alas” so that, two or three years from now, when I run into this statistic again and think “oh, yeah, I wrote a thing on that, didn’t I?” I can search for here it and find it....
View ArticleWhat do you do when your student tells you her father threatened her life?
Well, if you’re a K–12 teacher and you believe the student is at all credible (or maybe her credibility doesn’t matter), you have very specific reporting requirements, and there are protocols for that...
View ArticleWhat Do You Do When Your Student Tells You Her Father Threatened Her Life? 2
In my last post, I told you about a former student who came to my office distraught because her father had threatened her life. It’s now more than two weeks since I walked her over to the counseling...
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Cartoon: Affirmative Consent Explained
TRANSCRIPT OF CARTOON The cartoon shows two young men chatting. The man on the left is Asian and punky – he has his hair shaved into a mohawk, a nose ring and an earlobe plug, and tattoos. The man on...
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Violent Rape Threats Are An Infringement On Free Speech
Bellechere, a professional costumer and popular cosplayer, has posted that she won’t be attending New York Comic Con, despite having a pass. A man who didn’t like me saying that I cosplay for myself,...
View ArticleWhy “Affirmative Consent” Laws Are Needed
[Warning: This post contains descriptions of, and discussion of, rape.] In comments, a new comment-writer named “Ben” presented “three very strong objections to the California affirmative consent law.”...
View ArticleHigh School Rapist Orchestrates A Bullying Campaign That Forces Three Victims...
In this horrifying, maddening story, a seemingly popular high schooler in Oklahoma raped 3 classmates, and was suspended for distributing a video he made of one of the rapes. From outside of school, he...
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Here’s to a New Beginning and a Renewed Purpose
As I have hinted at in some of the posts I’ve written over the past couple of years, my professional life has been difficult, not because of anything having to do with my job per se, but because the...
View ArticleThe Politics of Being a Man Who Survived Childhood Sexual Violence
As I said in the blog post I wrote about the artist’s grant I received this year from the Queens Council on the Arts, I plan to use the blogging I do, as well as my newsletter (click to sign up), to...
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Red Pills and Ants
Recent events at a blog that rhymes with Shmetal-Moptimized reminded me of the existence of sociobiology and of people who imagine that human beings – and ants and bonobos and every other species — are...
View Article“You’re a Man. Why Are You Teaching Women’s Studies?”
For me, the most difficult part of refusing to be silent about the fact that I am a survivor of childhood sexual violence has been figuring out when and under what circumstances to reveal it to my...
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